|Narcissist: No Custody, No Children! - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html To drive a motorcycle, let alone a truck one needs a license. To sell liquor, one better have a permit. But anyone can bring children to this world and raise them - narcissists and psychopaths included. Parenting requires no screening, no testing, no exams, and no licensing...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; custody; divorce; visitation; psychopath; parent; parenting; idealization; narcissistic supply; child; adult; abuse; incest; family; marriage; mother; father; kids
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|Narcissist's Idea of Personal Development - Sam Vaknin|
The narcissist realises and resents his dependence on Narcissistic Supply. Moreover, deep inside, he is aware of the fact that his False Self is an untenable sham. Still, omnipotent as he holds himself to be, the narcissist believes in his ability to make it all come true, to asymptotically approximate his grandiose fantasies. He is firmly convinced that, given enough time and practice, he can and will become his lofty False Self...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; personal development; progress; false self; ego ideal; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic supply; supply triggers; supply sources; reflection; true self; perfection; omniscience; omnipotence; brilliance; perfection; omnipresence
|Idealized, Devalued, Dumped - Sam Vaknin|
The quality and reliability of Narcissistic Supply are, therefore, of paramount importance. The more the narcissist convinces himself that his sources are perfect, grand, comprehensive, authoritative, omniscient, omnipotent, beautiful, powerful, rich, brilliant, and so on â the better he feels. The narcissist has to idealise his Supply Sources in order to highly value the supply that he derives from them...
Keywords: narcissist; personality disorder; false self; narcissistic supply; idealization; devaluation; over-valuation; idolizing; devalue and discard; d&d; cycle; attention; adulation; codependence; narcissism; relationships
|MIT 24.262 Feeling and Imagination in Art, Science, and Technology, Spring 2004 - MIT OpenCourseWare|
Instructor: Prof. Irving Singer This course is a seminar on creativity in art, science, and technology. We discuss how these pursuits are jointly dependent on affective as well as cognitive elements in human nature. We study feeling and imagination in relation to principles of idealization, consummation, and the aesthetic values that give meaning to science and technology as well as literature and the other arts...
Keywords: Feeling; Imagination; Creativity; Art; Science; Technology; Philosophy; Psychology; Process; Discovery; Invention; Emotion; Idealization; Consummation; Aesthetic Values; Affective; Cognitive; Human Nature; Literature
|The Signs of the Narcissist - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html "Haughty" body language â The narcissist adopts a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority, seniority, hidden powers, mysteriousness, amused indifference, etc. Though the narcissist usually maintains sustained and piercing eye contact, he often refrains from physical proximity (he is "territorial")...
Keywords: narcissist; personality disorders; red flags; warning signs; haughtiness; arrogance; condescension; patronizing; body language; entitlement; false self; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic supply; emotions; bragging; humor; grandiosity; rage
|Narcissist Re-idealizes Discarded Sources of Narcissistic Supply - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist seeks out his old Sources of Narcissistic Supply when he has absolutely no other NS Sources at his disposal. Narcissists frantically try to recycle their erstwhile and wasted sources in such a situation. But the narcissist would not do even that had he not felt that he could still successfully extract a modicum of NS from the old source (even to a...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; narcissistic supply; false self; supply sources; intimacy; attention; adulation; fear; personal attacks; ignoring; idealization; devaluation; devalue; discard; re-idelization; narrative; grandiosity; omniscience; personality disorder
|Narcissistic Grandiosity Bubbles - Sam Vaknin|
A Grandiosity Bubble is an imagined, self-aggrandising, narrative involving the narcissist and elements from his real life â people around him, places he frequents, or conversations he is having. The narcissist weaves a story incorporating these facts, inflating them in the process and endowing them with bogus internal meaning and consistency. In other words: he confabulates â but, this time, his confabulation is loosely based on reality...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; grandiosity; inflated ego; false self; confabulation; narrative; story; narcissistic supply; thespian; playacting; role; reality; narcissistic injury; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic personality disorder
|Victim of Narcissist: Move On! - Sam Vaknin|
To preserve one's mental health â one must abandon the narcissist. One must move on. Moving on is a process, not a decision or an event. First, one has to acknowledge and accept painful reality. Such acceptance is a volcanic, shattering, agonising series of nibbling thoughts and strong resistances. Once the battle is won, and harsh and agonizing realities are assimilated, one can move on to the learning phase...
Keywords: narcissist; psychopath; abuse; victim; survivor; firgiving; forgetting; moving on; recovery; healing; relationship; marriage; divorce; custody; intimate partner; domestic violence; battering; stalking; narcissistic supply; objectification; devaluation; idealization; false self
|Can You Love the Narcissist and Rescue Him? - Sam Vaknin|
I believe in the possibility of loving narcissists if one accepts them unconditionally, in a disillusioned and expectation-free manner. Narcissists are narcissists. Take them or leave them. Some of them are lovable. Most of them are highly charming and intelligent. The source of the misery of the victims of the narcissist is their disappointment, their disillusionment, their abrupt and tearing and tearful realisation that they fell in love with an ideal of their own making, a phantasm, an illusi...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissistic-personality-disorder; intimacy; love; bonding; attachment; rescue; healing; recovery; cure; treatment; couple; spouse; marriage; friendship; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic supply; adulation; attention; significant other; intimate partner; mate; friend; help; support
|Narcissist's Psychological Defense Mechanisms - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html According to Freud and his followers, our psyche is a battlefield between instinctual urges and drives (the id), the constraints imposed by reality on the gratification of these impulses (the ego), and the norms of society (the superego). This constant infighting generates what Freud called "neurotic anxiety" (fear of losing control) and "moral anxiety" (guilt a...
Keywords: narcissist; false self; omniscience; omnipotence; acting out; denial; defense mechanisms; freud; id; ego; superego; anxiety; guilt; shame; hurt; trauma; abuse; devaluation; displacement; dissociation; multiple personality; cognitive dissonance; fantasy; grandiosity; idealization; isolation of affect; projection; projective identification; rationalization; intellectualization; reaction formation; repression; splitting; sublimation; undoing